tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7937282.post8865967577339111472..comments2024-01-23T02:11:02.912-08:00Comments on B.D.'s world: VictimhoodB.D.http://www.blogger.com/profile/02144122671576207950noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7937282.post-75736967984152476202007-02-17T07:05:00.000-08:002007-02-17T07:05:00.000-08:00Good story about your brother. Like you, I'm not f...Good story about your brother. Like you, I'm not fond of racism in the least. I was profoundly moved towards a pretty strong anti-racist position when I was bussed as a 6th grader in the first year of the bussing program in Louisville, Kentucky. Later, living in Detroit, I was certainly exposed to the conflicts between the races and learned the amount of deep racism that my parents carry within themselves. It's pretty ugly. I recall a rather shocking conversation with my father at breakfast during which he was spouting off against too many holidays in our calendar. The subject of his vitriol was Martin Luther King Day, which was being passed by Congress. My father, whom I couldn't ever remember saying much about race in front of us as we were growing up, told me, "Back in the day, Martin Luther King wasn't considered a great man. He was nothing more than an uppity nigger."<BR/><BR/>The blunt force of that remark forever changed the way I viewed my father. It was hateful and the manner in which he said it was also hateful. As I said, I never recalled him making more than a handful of racist remarks before, all of them when I was older and none of them so spiteful and personal.B.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02144122671576207950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7937282.post-51511587435665248562007-02-16T21:08:00.000-08:002007-02-16T21:08:00.000-08:00Sounds like you're dealing with a passive-agressiv...Sounds like you're dealing with a passive-agressive racist. I've said after being stationed in Florida and Georgia for 7 years it's my experience that racism is no less prevalent here. The balls to own up to it is less prevalent.<BR/><BR/>The only reason I know it is Black History Month is because I read for fourth graders on Mondays, and one of the resources I use for finding appropriate and timely books mentioned it.<BR/><BR/>Why haven't I been inundated I wonder? Oh, I don't spend much time with the white trash Tranquilizing Vaccine (TV). Maybe if he disconnection from FOX, got his passive-agressive white behind detached from the polyester couch his conservative talking point style racist feelings would fade.<BR/><BR/>I'm certainly not typically Seattle passive about my feelings about racists, eh? Years ago my brother made comments about how it isn't "their" fault, "they" learn to be lazy from things like "reverse discrimination." I told him that was the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard, that he was a passive-agressive racist.<BR/><BR/>I don't think he ever understood my point that the one bad black employee he had spoke well for "them" over all. After all he had worse luck percentage-wise with white guys. Why didn't he apply some passive-agressive logic to explain all the bad white employees? "That's different," he said, "the white guys choose to be that way." Then he made up imaginary examples of other black guys he'd had trouble with. You can imagine how the rest of that conversation went.<BR/><BR/>I'm confident he is still racist, but at least he hasn't spewed that crap to me since -- as he's had some problems affecting him emotionally and it would have been more than a conversation.<BR/><BR/>I just hope he doesn't spew racial crap around his (half-Korean) children either, but I assume he does. Maybe being exposed to it from different sides of the family it'll be easier for them to see how stupid racism really is. It does seem once ignorance is embraced people have a hundred times the trouble letting go.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10543839836945031346noreply@blogger.com